Intimacy disorders result from very real problems that often lead to serious life and relationship threatening consequences. Addiction and compulsion can occur with alcohol and/or drug abuse, compulsive sexual behaviors, affairs and dependency relationships, gaming, gambling, spending, debiting and eating disorders. Compulsive online behaviors and social networking often escalate negative consequences. Mood swings, lying and emotional abuse undermine safety and security. Discovery crisis and disclosure trauma impact everyone in the family.
Real Help is respectful of the vulnerability and life crisis that follows discovery of sexual addiction. We offer personalized care that is evidence-based and congruent with the needs, values, and beliefs of our clients. Real help is honest, safe, and professional. It occurs in a confidential outpatient treatment setting. The safety and privacy of our clients and their families is our primary concern at intake, assessment, and throughout the course of treatment. Levels of care that match the nature of the addiction and its consequences are recommended based on assessed needs, because not everyone’s needs are the same. We focus on ...
- Assessment and treatment planning
- Treatment for addictive disease, compulsive online behavior and trauma
- Treatment for betrayal trauma in discovery and disclosure
- Continuing care programs and alumni groups
- Multiple family education and couples therapy
- Sex therapy and education for sexual health and balance
- Professional consultations, training and supervision
- Professional networking and referral
The DeLugach Group treatment team uses state of the art, evidence based addiction and trauma treatment tools and Dr. Patrick Carnes Task Centered Approach for the treatment of sexual addiction, compulsive online behaviors and trauma. We work as a team to help you understand the nature of addiction, define sobriety, develop support and accountability networks, reduce shame and re-establish trust with individuals, couples and families struggling with the lies and betrayal trauma related to addiction, compulsive behaviors and trauma.
Accountability and Healing
Accountability is the cornerstone of healing the isolation of addictive disease for addicts and family members. In the normal course of all relationships there exists a natural process of healing and accounting for day to day conflicts and power struggles. We admit it when we are wrong and have hurt others. The past cannot be changed but we can make an open and honest acknowledgement of the harm done to others as we move out of the problem into the solution.
In many cultures the natural healing process involves honest accountability of harm done, empathy for the victims and demonstrating clear understanding of the negative consequences for victims and their families then, now and in the future. Truth and Justice Commissions in over 30 countries have implemented aspects of the natural healing process from many Indigenous People. They have helped to heal diverse cultures of generations of violence, abuse and atrocities to innocent victims. It is in the spirit of this natural healing that we are committed to the accountability process for both addicts and betrayed partners.
What addicts say about accountability
- Accountability “means letting go of being a victim.”
- Accountability “builds a process by which you can become a moral person.”
- Accountability “is a ‘Fail Safe’ for isolation and lying.”
- Accountability “is cleansing for my wife so we can make a fresh start”
- Accountability “is a legitimate need for those who have been betrayed.”
- Accountability "put an end to the cycles of abuse in my family."
Addictive disease damages significant relationships with defensive excuse making, dishonesty, deluded and victim thinking. The process of discovery of betrayal and disclosure of the nature of the problem takes its toll on the emotional, spiritual and physical well-being of everyone involved. Accountability in the treatment of addiction is based on identifying and respecting the impact of addictive disease on all family members and leads to re-establishing trust, rebuilding trust and healing.
The process of accountability develops empathy for the victims of lies and emotional abuse while validating their experience and reality. Out of respect for the vulnerability of those closest, addicts take full responsibility for their choices and the negative consequences that continue even in recovery. Accountability is a path to re-establish and re-build trust. Relationships are renegotiated based upon honesty, integrity, trust and clear boundaries.
Restoring Sexual Balance
The DeLugach Group is committed to the ethical treatment of sexual addiction and intimacy disorders. Sexuality is a vital part of who we are, a basic human need and right for all people. Our Sexual Self is expressed in everything we do. Frequently our view of human sexuality is defined in limited terms to mean genital contact due to a lack of information and support. In the treatment of sexual addiction, compulsive online behavior and trauma there are often healthy intimate behaviors that exist simultaneously with self/other destructive, shame based behaviors. Restoring sexual balance means that we build on client's healthy intimate behaviors with a healthy sex plan, clear personal boundaries and exercises that re-establish loving touch and intimate communication skills. Replacing the intensity, shame and mood swings of addiction/compulsion with healthy emotional risk taking in relationship.